This post chronicles every thought I’ve shared about bottom surgery on Instagram, beginning 2 years prior to surgery with my consultation all the way to today.
Relevant information, tips, and tricks that I’ve learned by navigating medical transition as a trans feminine non-binary person. Some of this information is also relevant to trans masculine and/or other non-binary experiences (in many of the examples I list, trans masculine folks experience a near inverse of what I describe), while some is far too specific to be applicable.
I will never be a cisgender woman, and that’s okay. My womanhood is no less valid than any cisgender woman’s just because I’m trans. My lack of a uterus or vagina, my facial hair growth, my Y chromosome – none of these make me any less woman. Some women have penises, and frankly, it’s time that people get over it.
Go to bat with insurance companies and demand trans-inclusive healthcare. Make clear to these companies that you will no longer pay into their plans if they decline to offer comprehensive coverage for gender-affirming care. Once you’ve developed a fully accessible, comprehensive benefits package for transgender employees, distribute this information company-wide.
“I dream of a world in which ‘passing’ is a dead concept and people everywhere are simply allowed to be and to live and feel amazing and beautiful and wonderful just the way that they are. Unfortunately, achieving that on a global scale is a long fight away. But on a much smaller scale, each of us has some amount of power in empowering and validating all of our trans siblings.”
“When other people witness us facing these aggressions in a single fleeting instance, they may interpret our reactions as overreactions. But micro-aggressions rarely occur as isolated incidents. Instead, they occur as frequent and ongoing frustrations and triggers that wear us down over time as we battle to live our everyday lives.”